For a long time I was that person seeking validation from other people. I used to define myself by the opinions of people I value and respect and I desperately sought their approval and validation. I looked to people to tell me who I am or what I am worth. I tried desperately to let them like me.
Without the words or actions that I felt approved me, I automatically assumed that people disapproved of me and I immediately begin to question my actions and so I became very insecure. I wanted to fit into their definition of who they think I should be so I kept changing my values and my self esteem became rags.
At that time, I would take up the personality of whoever I was hanging out with or dating. I was too afraid to be different or stand out. See, I am naturally conspicuous and my face is very unforgettable but I robbed myself of all that just so people could like me. In the end, the same people I desperately needed their validation walked all over me because they really were looking for validation themselves.
DO NOT ALLOW ANYONE ELSE’S PERCEPTION OF YOU SHAPE HOW YOU FEEL ABOUT YOURSELF.
Stop placing your value or acceptance on the fickle opinion of others .If you keep basing your self-concept on what you think others think of you, then you will always be vulnerable.
Stop trying to project an image of yourself based on what you think others want, because they don’t even know what they want. It’s a losing game really…